Ok so yesterday me and my girlfriend had a splendid argument. She always blows up, which I think is the main problem here. I prefer having calm and logical discussions, while she just explodes and throws ugly sentences into the air. One of them (which today she admitted was bad and wrong) was that aparently the females on planet earth are smarter than the males. I did not even want to continue the argument from that point and on. She insisted on continuing the argument, so when we got home (we were driving when the explosion occured), I refused to go up, and have resolved to let her come to her senses. She got pissed at that, but eventually got up to the house.

After a while, needless to say, she came to her senses, and gave me a call to my cell… surprise surprise, the lady is now ready and willing to discuss things in a more relaxed and civilized manner… I did not play it easy but agreed to come to the house. When I did come to the house, she just no longer had anything to say, and we went to sleep hugging. Now you tell me i’m not a magician 🙂

There are two morals from this story:

1. When an explosion occurs, the second entity in the couple she detect the trap that lies ahead, and try to avert the almost unescapable hot dispute that can occure when one of the sides is totaly adrenalized with hate and ugliness. If detected, and postponed, the discussion will become more gentle for various reasons, first, the person relaxes, then he misses the other a bit, then when he relaxes a bit more, he understands where he is, and he regrets the terrible sittuation, but then, still wants to keep is ego and statute/righteousness, but it will be more docile no matter what.

2. When and if you do blow up, try not to say something that will make you look stupid. Words last longer than the actual fight, and can be used against you at a latter time (For example, if you make racist comments, even if you regret saying it later when you cool off, the effect it has made will linger on for a while).

And so, today morning, after sleeping on it (hugged with my love), I have reached a solution. It’s of course very simple, and relates to an earlier solution of mine (A user manual for the man and the woman. I would write the user manual on how to use me, and she would write her own. You get the idea). So anyway, the solution is to just add another entry in the manual that shows how to advert the sittuation in the future.

In that specific occasion, I told my bubee that I will come home soon. She said that she’s about to be done with the food soon. I understood that she’s about to finish making the food, and expected her to call me when it’s ready so that I can come home. When she heard me say soon, she thought I would be home in 2 minutes. Well, for me soon means between 30 to 90 minutes… You can guess what happened there.

And so, from now on, the manual will have an entry that talks about the word “Soon” and its meanings with different people, and specifically with me and her, and she hopefully will not mistake my soon with her soon next time I use that word.

Well, I hope I did not bore anyone to death here…